What kind of (men's) hair product am I looking for to give it a different style?

So my hair is wavy, and curly. It's not so curly that it scrunches up into little circles but it's curly none the less. I've tried many types of hair gels and it usually just separates the hair and makes it really curly. What I really want to do is make it look like all one wave of hair, or multiple waves of hair.. not large separate curled strands. And it always looks dark and wet. What should I use?





Here are pics of what I mean


Without much gel


http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v168/blueking/IMG_0321.jpg


With gel


http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v168/blueking/06-14-09_2310.jpg





What I'd kinda like





http://www.flickr.com/photos/caspiansprincess/3525806936/





http://www.flickr.com/photos/caspiansprincess/3525806886/in/set-72157620771995542/





http://www.flickr.com/photos/caspiansprincess/3525806850/in/set-72157620771995542/What kind of (men's) hair product am I looking for to give it a different style?
gelly jel